How do you compile your wedding guest list? #smed12

Compiling the guest list for your wedding day is a very challenging task. You always start with the important people first which is the bride and groom’s family. When you eventually realise that your fiance has 50 family members on his list and you have 40 even though you initially wanted to invite only a hundred people. That is when the real problems start. You group the family members into immediate family (parents, grandparents and siblings). Then the aunts, uncles and cousins. The question is do you invite 2^nd and 3^rd cousins? How often do you see this family? I only see them once a year at either a funeral or when it’s a family reunion. So now all it’s considered rude when you don’t have them on the list. You have family which you have not spoken to in three years but hey live around the corner from you and yet they expect an invitation as well. Will we ever move away from these traditions that were invented by our great grandparents and their parents? 

Then you start adding your friends to the list. You have so many friends. Your primary & high school friends do they even matter?  You have varsity friends and colleagues. So how do you juggle this list? It’s very difficult I might have known you since High school but If haven’t seen you for almost a year should you get an invite? We are best friends and you don’t have a boyfriend but you want an invite admit 2. Then there are friends that only stick around for the good times, but they expect an invitation too. It’s a headache waiting to happen.

 

It doesn’t help that society has these traditions and norms that have been instilled for years. The minute you decide to do things differently you are considered to be offensive or obnoxious. The fact that the wedding costs you a fortune is never a topic. You can’t afford to invite everyone. A wedding guest list is private and for all the special people in you life. For those who are involved in your life that contributed in some special way. Times have changed and people should respect a couples wedding list.